{"id":1109,"date":"2026-07-13T11:48:40","date_gmt":"2026-07-13T10:48:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mediaconversation.com\/?p=1109"},"modified":"2026-07-13T11:48:45","modified_gmt":"2026-07-13T10:48:45","slug":"opinion-the-polygamy-excuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mediaconversation.com\/?p=1109","title":{"rendered":"Opinion: The Polygamy Excuse"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>By<\/strong> <strong>Okolie Kosisochukwu Esther<\/strong><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When infidelity occurs, it is rarely a passive act dictated by genetics. It is an active choice, a decision made by an individual to violate the trust and agreements within a relationship. Shifting the blame to a supposed \u201cpolygamy excuse\u201d does a disservice to those who are hurt by such actions and undermines the very foundation of healthy, committed partnerships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Infidelity is a complex issue that affects relationships regardless of gender. The notion that \u201cmen are polygamous in nature\u201d often surfaces in discussions about infidelity. This perspective suggests that men are inherently wired to seek multiple partners, implying that cheating is less a moral failing and more an expression of innate instinct.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s true that some scientific ideas suggest men might have a natural tendency towards seeking multiple partners, often linked to how our ancestors reproduced. This \u201cpolygamous nature\u201d idea gets used a lot to explain why some men cheat. The argument is that if it\u2019s in their DNA, then it\u2019s just how they are, and it\u2019s not really a moral failing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">However, this line of reasoning can be a bit too simple. Human behavior is way more complicated than just biology. We\u2019re shaped by our upbringing, the culture we live in, and the personal values we develop. Many men choose to be monogamous and are happy in those relationships, proving that nature doesn\u2019t completely control our actions. When we use \u201cnature\u201d as an excuse for cheating, it takes away the individual\u2019s responsibility for their choices and the hurt they cause.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When infidelity occurs, it is rarely a passive act dictated by genetics. It is an active choice, a decision made by an individual to violate the trust and agreements within a relationship. Shifting the blame to a supposed \u201cpolygamy excuse\u201d does a disservice to those who are hurt by such actions and undermines the very foundation of healthy, committed partnerships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some men are comfortable cheating on their partners because it is the so called nature of an African man but when tables are turned, a woman isn\u2019t expected to cheat because society expects her to be loyal and faithful and devoted to her husband. Is this to say that women also can\u2019t be Polygamous in nature?.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For me, men should stop using that statement as an excuse for their inhumane acts. It is either you are single or you are married(to just one person), because why get married if you still have intentions of living as though you are single?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ultimately, I believe whether men are \u201cpolygamous in nature\u201d is a debate that should not overshadow the reality of infidelity\u2019s impact. It is a very sensitive topic that we will keep on debating for even in years to come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What\u2019s more important is how we treat each other in relationships. Trust, commitment, and communication are key. While understanding potential biological influences can be interesting, it shouldn\u2019t be used to excuse behavior that breaks trust. Ultimately, whether someone cheats is a decision they make, and focusing on that responsibility is crucial for healthy relationships, regardless of any supposed natural inclinations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em><strong>Okolie Kosisochukwu Esther is a 200 lvl student of the department of Journalism and media studies In Delta State University Abraka<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Email<\/em><\/strong>:esther7042@icloud.com<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Okolie Kosisochukwu Esther When infidelity occurs, it is rarely a passive act dictated by genetics. It is an active choice, a decision made by an individual to violate the trust and agreements within a relationship. 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