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More Than Broken Hearts: The Damage Of Toxic Relationships
By Miracle Owhede
On the surface, they looked like the perfect couple. Their social media pages were filled with smiling photographs, anniversary messages, and romantic captions. Friends admired their relationship, believing they had found true love. Behind closed doors, however, the reality was painfully different. Every disagreement ended in insults, emotional manipulation, and fear. What many perceived as a happy relationship was, in fact, a toxic one.
Across Nigeria and many parts of the world, countless people are trapped in relationships that rob them of their peace, confidence, and happiness. Toxic relationships are no longer isolated cases; they have become a growing social concern affecting young couples, married partners, and even those who are dating.
Unlike healthy relationships, which are built on trust, communication, and mutual respect, toxic relationships are characterised by constant criticism, jealousy, controlling behaviour, dishonesty, manipulation, emotional abuse, and, in some cases, physical violence. The damage often goes unnoticed because the wounds are not always visible.
“There is nothing more draining than begging to be heard in a relationship,” says Anita, a young professional who recently ended a long-term relationship. “Every time I tried to communicate, it turned into an argument. I couldn’t even express how I felt without him becoming defensive. Whenever I tried to fix the relationship, he treated me as though I was attacking him.”
Her experience reflects the reality many women quietly endure. Emotional exhaustion is often caused not only by the problems within a relationship but also by the inability to discuss those problems openly. Over time, some partners choose silence over confrontation, sacrificing their feelings simply to keep the peace.
Another survivor, Grace, a 26-year-old graduate, shared a similar experience after ending a three-year relationship.
“I stopped being myself just to avoid arguments. Everything I did was questioned—who I spoke to, where I went, even the clothes I wore. I thought it was love until I realised I was living in fear.”
Relationship experts explain that communication is one of the strongest foundations of a healthy relationship. No one should feel afraid to communicate with the person they love. Yet many people find themselves walking on eggshells, carefully choosing their words or remaining silent altogether because they fear criticism, anger, or misunderstanding.
Another victim, who requested anonymity, described how emotional abuse gradually destroyed her confidence.
“He never hit me,” she recalled. “But every day he told me I wasn’t good enough. After a while, I believed him. I became isolated from my friends and family because he convinced me they didn’t care about me.”
One of the hardest lessons many people learn is that words alone are never enough. Sometimes, the person who says, “I don’t want to lose you,” is the same person whose repeated actions continue to push their partner away. Promises may provide hope, but consistent behaviour reveals the truth. When someone repeatedly apologises without making genuine efforts to change, they may simply be asking their partner to become accustomed to being hurt.
Counsellors explain that emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical violence. Constant insults, threats, manipulation, silent treatment, and emotional control can leave lasting psychological scars that affect a person’s confidence, mental health, and future relationships. Genuine love is reflected in consistent actions. It does not repeatedly promise change while continuing harmful behaviour. Trust is rebuilt through meaningful change, not repeated apologies.
Social expectations also make it difficult for many victims to leave unhealthy relationships. In some communities, ending a relationship is viewed as a sign of failure, while remaining in an unhealthy one is often praised as commitment. This societal pressure causes many people to remain silent despite the emotional pain they experience.
Social media has further complicated the issue. Many couples carefully display only their happiest moments online, creating the illusion of perfect relationships. Behind the carefully edited photographs and affectionate captions, however, some are battling emotional distress that no camera can capture.
Healthy relationships are not free from disagreements. Every couple experiences misunderstandings from time to time. The difference is that healthy partners communicate respectfully, listen to one another, and resolve conflicts without intimidation, manipulation, or abuse.
Love should inspire growth, security, and mutual respect—not fear, control, or emotional suffering. While no relationship is perfect, every individual deserves one where kindness outweighs cruelty and respect is never in short supply.
In the end, protecting your peace of mind is not selfish—it is necessary. Real love does not merely promise change; it demonstrates it through consistent respect, honesty, accountability, and care. When actions continually contradict words, it may be time to choose your own well-being over empty promises. Sometimes, walking away is not giving up on love; it is refusing to give up on yourself.
Miracle Owhede is a Journalism and Media Studies student.
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Warri Run and Rave Event Draws Political Protest Over Tinubu-Branded Shirts
A Run and Rave event sponsored by Soft Nigeria in Warri, Delta State, was interrupted on Thursday after some participants protested against polo shirts bearing the image of President Bola Ahmed Tinubu.
The event, held at PTI Junction as part of activities marking Nigeria’s Independence Day, attracted young people who gathered for the fitness and entertainment programme.
According to videos and reports from the scene, some participants objected after shirts bearing Tinubu’s image were distributed. Some were seen tearing the shirts, while others chanted the name of Peter Obi and shouted, “We no go wear.”
Edema Seun, a young man who attended the Run and Rave event, said he encountered supporters of Peter Obi on his way to the venue but decided to remain at the event.
“I met the Obi supporters on the way and I stayed back to enjoy the event I came for. Later on I heard that there were burning shirts,” Seun said.
Seun’s account indicates that he did not personally witness the reported burning of the shirts, but learnt about it later during the event.
Videos circulating online showed some participants tearing the shirts, while others gathered around the area where the disagreement occurred. The available footage does not establish the political affiliation of all the participants or indicate that everyone at the event took part in the protest.
The incident has since attracted attention on social media, with reactions focusing on the use of a political figure’s image at an event presented as a fitness and entertainment programme.
The development comes amid increased political activity ahead of Nigeria’s 2027 general election, with supporters of different political figures increasingly visible at public gatherings and community events.
As of the time of filing this report, no detailed statement from Soft Nigeria explaining the distribution of the Tinubu-branded shirts or responding to the incident had been identified.
The Run and Rave event itself was organised as a fitness and entertainment gathering, while the political disagreement emerged during the programme over the shirts distributed to participants.
Politics
Nigeria @ 66: Tinubu Declares End of Emergency Reforms, Says Country Has Entered Age of Shared Prosperity
President Bola Ahmed Tinubu, Thursday, declared that Nigeria has passed the worst of its economic pains and has now entered the age of prosperity, in his 66th Independence Day address to the nation.
In an Independence Day celebration broadcast titled “From Reform to Prosperity”, the President said his administration chose to confront Nigeria’s deep economic distortions head-on when it assumed office in 2023, likening the country at that time to a cancer patient who must endure painful treatment to survive.
He said for too long Nigeria’s leaders chose morphine while praying for a miracle that never came, but his administration resolved to do things differently and excise the cancer.
Three and a half years after the removal of fuel subsidy and the foreign exchange reforms, Tinubu said the evidence of recovery is now undeniable.
He noted that the economy has grown by over four percent this year, with both oil and non-oil sectors contributing to stable growth, while oil theft has reduced and foreign direct investment continues to rise.
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According to him, inflation has fallen substantially from its peak, foreign reserves have been rebuilt and the foreign exchange market has stabilised.
He added that in 2025 the country recorded its highest revenue from non-oil exports in history, exceeding six billion dollars, which he described as real money being made by real Nigerian businesses.
These, he said, are not idle claims, as international observers, journalists, NGOs and multilateral institutions have all concluded that the reforms have strengthened Nigeria’s stability and resilience.
The President said that with the foundation now repaired, the central task of government has changed from correcting the economy to delivering shared and widespread prosperity.
He explained that prosperity to him does not mean merely larger numbers or better statistics, but a Nigeria where the farmer can cultivate safely and earn a decent return, where factories have reliable power, businesses can obtain credit, young people can find productive work, food and transportation are affordable, education is within reach, and families can look to the future with confidence.
To achieve this, Tinubu said his government will focus on bringing down the cost of living by lowering the cost of producing and moving goods.
He outlined plans to expand mechanised irrigation and dry-season farming, improve access to seeds and fertiliser, increase mechanisation, invest in storage and transportation, and build and complete roads, railways and ports that connect farms and factories to markets.
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His logic, he said, is simple: when farmers produce more cheaply, when fewer crops are lost between farm and market, when manufacturers spend less on electricity and trucks reach destinations faster in a competitive environment, those savings will ultimately reflect in market prices.
On jobs, the President said Nigeria’s youthful population must become an engine of production rather than a source of despair.
He pledged to use the nation’s gas to power new industries, support businesses to revive factories in industrial centres, expand digital connectivity into long-neglected communities, invest in relevant skills and provide infrastructure and finance for businesses to grow.
He said he wants to see more Nigerians making things, more farms feeding cities and supplying factories, more businesses selling Nigerian goods to the world, and young Nigerians building unicorns and creating opportunities at home.
Acknowledging that millions of citizens still struggle for daily meals, school fees and medical bills, the President said their plight is the accumulated consequence of decades of low productivity and weak institutions.
While this cannot be erased in four years, he said the course can be changed and the vulnerable will not be abandoned.
He pointed to strengthened direct support through an improved National Social Register for the poorest households, the Nigerian Education Loan Fund ensuring that children of low-income families can pursue higher education, and CREDICORP giving working Nigerians access to consumer credit for vehicles, solar systems and digital devices without years of savings.
He added that government has continued to pay salaries and pensions on time and in full, reformed the national pension programme, and is working with states and local governments to strengthen primary healthcare and basic education.
These programmes, he said, are not substitutes for prosperity but a bridge towards it, stressing that the objective is not to manage poverty more efficiently but to defeat it.
Tinubu urged Nigerians to resist calls by what he described as influential but regressive voices to abandon reforms and return to addictive subsidies, insisting that the nation must remember why the journey began.
He declared that the emergency treatment is over and the foundation has been repaired, saying Nigeria has corrected its course and passed through its own Red Sea.
While calling for unity and renewed faith, he said the promised land before the nation is one of abundance and opportunity where prosperity is broadly shared and every child can dream beyond the circumstances of birth.
He concluded that the destination is in sight, the foundations are strong and the direction is clear, urging Nigerians to go forward together with no looking back.
Education
DELSU Sets 77.3 as Highest Cut-Off Mark for 2026/2027, As Clinical Medicine Leads Admission Race
Delta State University, Abraka has released its approved UTME cut-off marks for the 2026/2027 admission session.
The release comes barely 24 hours after the state-owned institution released its first batch of admission for the incoming session.
The announcement, released on Wednesday, 9th September 2026 by the Public Relations Unit of the Directorate of Ceremonials, Information and Public Relations, spells out the minimum scores candidates must attain across the university’s 16 faculties to qualify for admission.
Leading the pack is the Faculty of Clinical Medicine, where Clinical Science carries the highest cut-off of 77.3.
This is closely followed by other health and professional courses that remain the most competitive in the university.
Nursing Science requires 71.2, while Law is set at 70.5. Both Dentistry and Pharmacy also stand at 70.0.
The story is different in several other faculties where the baseline cut-off remains at 40.
This applies to most programmes in the Faculties of Agriculture, Education, Environmental Sciences, and Social Sciences.
In the Faculty of Allied Health Sciences, candidates seeking admission into Medical Laboratory Science will need 65.3, while Pharmacology is pegged at 53.8 and Public Health at 50.
Candidates seeking admission into Engineering courses will have to meet varied benchmarks with Mechanical Engineering having the highest in the faculty at 52.5, followed by Petroleum Engineering at 51.5 and Electrical/Electronic Engineering at 50.5.
Chemical Engineering and Civil Engineering are lower at 45 and 42.9 respectively.
For management-related courses, Accounting leads with 56.7, Business Administration at 55.1, and Public Administration at 52.
In the Faculty of Communication and Media Studies, Mass Communication requires 55.7, while other programmes such as Advertising, Broadcasting, Journalism and Public Relations are at 40.
The Faculty of Computing also sets Computer Science at 56.5, with Cyber Security, Software Engineering, Information Technology and related courses pegged at 40.
In the Faculty of Arts, Theatre Arts and History & International Studies require 50 and 50.6 respectively, while English, French, Music,
Linguistics and Fine Arts are at 40. The Faculty of Science places Microbiology at 50 and Biochemistry at 48.2, with Physics, Chemistry, Mathematics, Geology and other courses at 40.
According to the university’s official bulletin dated Wednesday, 2nd September 2026, the new clearance process will be carried out entirely through the student’s portal.
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